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		<title>By: anonnn</title>
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		<dc:creator>anonnn</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 20 Jul 2009 21:25:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I recently decided to quit WoW due to the negative impact it had on my real life commitments. I went with the cold turkey method. I have not once gone back to a single online game since quitting. I check up on WoW related websites and my old guild progress and members about once a week. I played WoW for about a year with 4 months of that time spent in one of the top 10 raiding guilds in the US. My desire to get better and &quot;catch up&quot; to the place where my other guild members were at drove me to play for insane amounts of time. I failed out of school (being a straight A student for most of my life). After quitting, I have gotten a job and am starting to take a few classes again. Although from an outside perspective, my life is much &quot;better,&quot; I do not feel that way at all. Yes, I have a job and go to school again and my real life relationships have shown significant improvement. However, I am unhappy. I was truly happy during my time playing WoW. I am strong in my determination to solve this problem which has enabled me to stay away from the game. I just can&#039;t seem to find the same enjoyment in anything else. Please help.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I recently decided to quit WoW due to the negative impact it had on my real life commitments. I went with the cold turkey method. I have not once gone back to a single online game since quitting. I check up on WoW related websites and my old guild progress and members about once a week. I played WoW for about a year with 4 months of that time spent in one of the top 10 raiding guilds in the US. My desire to get better and &#8220;catch up&#8221; to the place where my other guild members were at drove me to play for insane amounts of time. I failed out of school (being a straight A student for most of my life). After quitting, I have gotten a job and am starting to take a few classes again. Although from an outside perspective, my life is much &#8220;better,&#8221; I do not feel that way at all. Yes, I have a job and go to school again and my real life relationships have shown significant improvement. However, I am unhappy. I was truly happy during my time playing WoW. I am strong in my determination to solve this problem which has enabled me to stay away from the game. I just can&#8217;t seem to find the same enjoyment in anything else. Please help.</p>
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		<title>By: Beej</title>
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		<dc:creator>Beej</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 11 Jul 2009 22:03:57 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think it is possible to find that kind of structure in-game.  My problem is that I didn&#039;t know anyone else who would be willing to devote that little time for the same reasons I did, and I really didn&#039;t have the energy to set up my own 10-hour a week raiding/PvP guild.

I think it can be successful, but it has a lot of pitfalls that could lead to even more substantial backsliding.
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think it is possible to find that kind of structure in-game.  My problem is that I didn&#8217;t know anyone else who would be willing to devote that little time for the same reasons I did, and I really didn&#8217;t have the energy to set up my own 10-hour a week raiding/PvP guild.</p>
<p>I think it can be successful, but it has a lot of pitfalls that could lead to even more substantial backsliding.<br />
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		<title>By: Abscissa</title>
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		<dc:creator>Abscissa</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 11 Jul 2009 16:37:58 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I really enjoyed this series of posts.  One thing that doesn&#039;t seem to be addressed as much, but would be interested in hearing your thoughts on - is it possible to structure a guild to create a satisfying gaming experience without requiring a significant amount of player time?  Is it possible to have a guild be reasonably successful and not require more than, say 10 hrs/week of game time from its members?  The only examples I can think of are small guilds formed out of groups of friends in real life.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I really enjoyed this series of posts.  One thing that doesn&#8217;t seem to be addressed as much, but would be interested in hearing your thoughts on &#8211; is it possible to structure a guild to create a satisfying gaming experience without requiring a significant amount of player time?  Is it possible to have a guild be reasonably successful and not require more than, say 10 hrs/week of game time from its members?  The only examples I can think of are small guilds formed out of groups of friends in real life.</p>
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		<title>By: Beej</title>
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		<dc:creator>Beej</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Jul 2009 01:47:34 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Tankette:  That&#039;s the perfect reason to get away from that lifestyle, if you ask me.  I was in the same boat, and I am finally comfortable with the &quot;accomplishments&quot; in life.  Since I realized that I was addicted and started doing something about it, I&#039;ve received my Master&#039;s degree, presented my first paper at a national academic conference, become Assistant Director of my college&#039;s tutoring center as well as survived my first academic year teaching.  That&#039;s an awful lot of goings-on in just a few years.  And it all started with me realizing that I was on a no-where track with nothing going for me.  It took *me* wanting to change to be able to get myself on the right track.
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Tankette:  That&#8217;s the perfect reason to get away from that lifestyle, if you ask me.  I was in the same boat, and I am finally comfortable with the &#8220;accomplishments&#8221; in life.  Since I realized that I was addicted and started doing something about it, I&#8217;ve received my Master&#8217;s degree, presented my first paper at a national academic conference, become Assistant Director of my college&#8217;s tutoring center as well as survived my first academic year teaching.  That&#8217;s an awful lot of goings-on in just a few years.  And it all started with me realizing that I was on a no-where track with nothing going for me.  It took *me* wanting to change to be able to get myself on the right track.<br />
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		<title>By: Tankette</title>
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		<dc:creator>Tankette</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:25:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I play WoW instead of doing other hobbies because it is more fun than the other hobbies. I don&#039;t watch TV or movies because they are boring compared to playing WoW. I don&#039;t feel any sense of loss for missing TV shows. I don&#039;t read much for pleasure any more either. Why? It is not as entertaining. Again, there&#039;s no sense of loss. 

I can admit I am addicted to WoW, however. Here&#039;s the scary part: When I think about how meaningless my accomplishments in WoW are, I mean it is just a game and my 3 level 80s could disappear tomorrow if Blizz shut their doors, I am forced to realize that so many other things I have done in my life are just as meaningless. If I got hit by a bus tomorrow, what would all my various &quot;accomplishments&quot; in life be worth? Sometimes after I think such thoughts I go spend time with my kids. Other times I just figure playing WoW isn&#039;t any more of a waste of time than all the other things I would be doing instead so I just keep playing.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I play WoW instead of doing other hobbies because it is more fun than the other hobbies. I don&#8217;t watch TV or movies because they are boring compared to playing WoW. I don&#8217;t feel any sense of loss for missing TV shows. I don&#8217;t read much for pleasure any more either. Why? It is not as entertaining. Again, there&#8217;s no sense of loss. </p>
<p>I can admit I am addicted to WoW, however. Here&#8217;s the scary part: When I think about how meaningless my accomplishments in WoW are, I mean it is just a game and my 3 level 80s could disappear tomorrow if Blizz shut their doors, I am forced to realize that so many other things I have done in my life are just as meaningless. If I got hit by a bus tomorrow, what would all my various &#8220;accomplishments&#8221; in life be worth? Sometimes after I think such thoughts I go spend time with my kids. Other times I just figure playing WoW isn&#8217;t any more of a waste of time than all the other things I would be doing instead so I just keep playing.</p>
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		<title>By: wojtek</title>
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		<dc:creator>wojtek</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:21:04 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>You could try private servers, nothing works there as expected, and gradually, you just get bored with the game...</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>You could try private servers, nothing works there as expected, and gradually, you just get bored with the game&#8230;</p>
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		<title>By: DeÃ¥dly</title>
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		<dc:creator>DeÃ¥dly</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 05 Jul 2009 22:21:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think that i sorta played WoW because i couldn&#039;t really meet up or talk with any of my friends IRL (im 12 btw) but now that I use facebook i generally play wow a lot less and not considered &quot;the nerd&quot; anymore =) it just takes time. i would say i used the MMo methadone method</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think that i sorta played WoW because i couldn&#8217;t really meet up or talk with any of my friends IRL (im 12 btw) but now that I use facebook i generally play wow a lot less and not considered &#8220;the nerd&#8221; anymore =) it just takes time. i would say i used the MMo methadone method</p>
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		<title>By: We Fly Spitfires - MMORPG Blog</title>
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		<dc:creator>We Fly Spitfires - MMORPG Blog</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 05 Jul 2009 20:54:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think taking a break is a good idea. I usually find going away on holiday helps put things into perspective. Still, I don&#039;t think I&#039;m an addict in the sense you&#039;ve described - I think I have more of a deep seated fear about being parted from technology or something. Like I just need to know I can play a MMORPG even if I don&#039;t want to. It&#039;s weird :)

Great article :)
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think taking a break is a good idea. I usually find going away on holiday helps put things into perspective. Still, I don&#8217;t think I&#8217;m an addict in the sense you&#8217;ve described &#8211; I think I have more of a deep seated fear about being parted from technology or something. Like I just need to know I can play a MMORPG even if I don&#8217;t want to. It&#8217;s weird <img src='http://www.worldofmatticus.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>Great article <img src='http://www.worldofmatticus.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /><br />
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		<title>By: Sydera</title>
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		<dc:creator>Sydera</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 05 Jul 2009 20:17:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>@Prof Beej: Therapy is very helpful, and is not something to be seen as a last-ditch solution. That said, for the online-gaming obsessed, go into your therapy session expecting your therapist to tell you to quit gaming entirely. Therapists are really great at seeing through bullshit--so, if you tell them gaming is hurting your personal life, they are going to tell you to quit cold turkey, no buts. Your therapist will not be your enabler.

From personal experience, though, if you want someone to help you organize your life and tell you what to do, therapy is a great option. It&#039;s always helped me whenever I&#039;ve hit a major crisis. My therapist helped me pick a graduate school and get over a major breakup--I think it&#039;s a myth that you have to have really &quot;big&quot; problems to benefit from counseling. But maybe it&#039;s my personality--if I want to do something new, I take a class or ask someone how to do it. I&#039;m very good at following precise instructions.

It&#039;s actually hard to convince people that gaming can be part of a healthy lifestyle. In my opinion, it can. If I went to my therapist and told her that, say, my novel reading was hurting my personal life, I&#039;m pretty sure she wouldn&#039;t tell me to stop reading cold turkey. However, gaming doesn&#039;t have that same kind of social acceptance. The trouble here is that many people want to scale back without quitting entirely.

That was my situation. I did, and still do, have an enormous amount of free time. What I think I&#039;ve achieved through moderating my play time is having WoW be a part of my social life instead of most of it. I&#039;m still working on getting to a place where WoW has a 0% impact on my work performance. I&#039;m doing better, but I want to be in a place where I read NO blogs or forums while I should be working.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>@Prof Beej: Therapy is very helpful, and is not something to be seen as a last-ditch solution. That said, for the online-gaming obsessed, go into your therapy session expecting your therapist to tell you to quit gaming entirely. Therapists are really great at seeing through bullshit&#8211;so, if you tell them gaming is hurting your personal life, they are going to tell you to quit cold turkey, no buts. Your therapist will not be your enabler.</p>
<p>From personal experience, though, if you want someone to help you organize your life and tell you what to do, therapy is a great option. It&#8217;s always helped me whenever I&#8217;ve hit a major crisis. My therapist helped me pick a graduate school and get over a major breakup&#8211;I think it&#8217;s a myth that you have to have really &#8220;big&#8221; problems to benefit from counseling. But maybe it&#8217;s my personality&#8211;if I want to do something new, I take a class or ask someone how to do it. I&#8217;m very good at following precise instructions.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s actually hard to convince people that gaming can be part of a healthy lifestyle. In my opinion, it can. If I went to my therapist and told her that, say, my novel reading was hurting my personal life, I&#8217;m pretty sure she wouldn&#8217;t tell me to stop reading cold turkey. However, gaming doesn&#8217;t have that same kind of social acceptance. The trouble here is that many people want to scale back without quitting entirely.</p>
<p>That was my situation. I did, and still do, have an enormous amount of free time. What I think I&#8217;ve achieved through moderating my play time is having WoW be a part of my social life instead of most of it. I&#8217;m still working on getting to a place where WoW has a 0% impact on my work performance. I&#8217;m doing better, but I want to be in a place where I read NO blogs or forums while I should be working.</p>
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		<title>By: Syrana</title>
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		<dc:creator>Syrana</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 05 Jul 2009 19:52:51 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>While I respect that you are open with your struggle with gaming, there are still points in this post that I have issues with.

I certainly agree with the last portion of the post: seek help.  With ANY addiction, it is extremely difficult to overcome alone, which is why support groups/meetings became an integral part of the 12 Step Process in AA and then NA, CA, etc.  And you made a good point, no one should be ashamed of asking for help.  As I tell my clients, it is actually a strength to be able to reach out and ask for help.

However, out of the 4 &quot;strategies&quot; listed prior to seeking help, the only one I can fully agree with is Quitting Cold Turkey.  I still do not feel it is appropriate to compare gaming with an opiate addict needing methadone, or an alcoholic that requires detoxification.  As I stated before, those are to assist people in recovery who have a medical need for them.  (Granted there are always some that slip through..) Opiates, such as heroin, are extremely dangerous to quit cold turkey.  It can be life threatening.

Cold Turkey would still be the ideal option - you&#039;ve heard of alcoholics and drug addicts needing to stay away from &quot;old people, places, and things,&quot; right? That would mean no game, no gaming blogs, no internet, no computer, no friends that &quot;use.&quot;

But, if you or someone else struggling with gaming are finding it too extreme to cope with quitting cold turkey, then gradually decreasing time played would be appropriate.

I do have an issue with the alter playstyle portion, especially since the post series has made other comparisons to AODA treatment.  That option would NOT be suggested or condoned, as it would be like saying &quot;ok, don&#039;t use THIS drug, but you can use all the other ones.&quot;
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		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>While I respect that you are open with your struggle with gaming, there are still points in this post that I have issues with.</p>
<p>I certainly agree with the last portion of the post: seek help.  With ANY addiction, it is extremely difficult to overcome alone, which is why support groups/meetings became an integral part of the 12 Step Process in AA and then NA, CA, etc.  And you made a good point, no one should be ashamed of asking for help.  As I tell my clients, it is actually a strength to be able to reach out and ask for help.</p>
<p>However, out of the 4 &#8220;strategies&#8221; listed prior to seeking help, the only one I can fully agree with is Quitting Cold Turkey.  I still do not feel it is appropriate to compare gaming with an opiate addict needing methadone, or an alcoholic that requires detoxification.  As I stated before, those are to assist people in recovery who have a medical need for them.  (Granted there are always some that slip through..) Opiates, such as heroin, are extremely dangerous to quit cold turkey.  It can be life threatening.</p>
<p>Cold Turkey would still be the ideal option &#8211; you&#8217;ve heard of alcoholics and drug addicts needing to stay away from &#8220;old people, places, and things,&#8221; right? That would mean no game, no gaming blogs, no internet, no computer, no friends that &#8220;use.&#8221;</p>
<p>But, if you or someone else struggling with gaming are finding it too extreme to cope with quitting cold turkey, then gradually decreasing time played would be appropriate.</p>
<p>I do have an issue with the alter playstyle portion, especially since the post series has made other comparisons to AODA treatment.  That option would NOT be suggested or condoned, as it would be like saying &#8220;ok, don&#8217;t use THIS drug, but you can use all the other ones.&#8221;<br />
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